Today started with some heavy training on gender violence prevention — to be honest I got pretty agitated. Not because the content was new or sensitive or any of the disclosures were triggering, but because I didn’t feel heard or understood.
When I get like that it’s important for me to take a break, go for a walk, grab something to drink or eat, feel the sunshine on my face, and remember that even if I’m assessing the situation accurately, it doesn’t really matter if they understand me or hear me or validate me or reject me.
What matters is my own knowing about my core beliefs and experiences and the faith I have in my convictions based on the lessons and knowledge I’ve learned along the way.
It’s not necessary to get others to agree with you, what’s important is to stay open while you finesse your growth through leveraging all conflict as opportunities.
Hone your ability to be resilient and self regulating in all friction. Don’t fray. Your power lies in self regulation once you determine it’s not useful to push. Instead, know when to retreat. Know when less is more.
Remind yourself: change doesn’t have to happen all at once, but in increments.
Often it is the most meaningful change that gradually emerges layer by layer; as I witness my own growth in balancing intensity with gentleness.
With this in mind I ended my day determined to absorb the sunset, welcomed the full moonrise, enjoyed a relaxing meditation bath, and put myself to bed early.
Tomorrow will be another chance to add a layer!