I can’t go back and redo my twenties or even go back to puberty and start my socialization over so that I understand male/female dynamics REALISTICALLY. My life may be irreversible; I’ll have to make peace with the consequences of what you did, but I know you’re still out there doing this to other people.
Have you ever stopped and taken a look back at that little girl or boy you used to be and asked them is there anything they still need?
“Strip away all of the unnecessary distractions and get down to the essential pieces of you. Clear space for your breath and your freedom to exist at your most basic level. Bask in your birthright!”
“It’s not necessary to get others to agree with you, what’s important is to stay open while you finesse your growth through leveraging all conflict as opportunities.”
I promise myself, as hard as it will be not to want to embrace the next imperfect being and love them — I will love myself more.
Although you don’t know who these women are and they may be faceless to you: remember they exist. They are here in our community where you least expect them. They are successful, they are pretty, they are athletic, they are smart, they are EVERYWHERE and they wear masks.
So often we impulsively or reactively jolt ourselves through transitions out of avoidance of dealing with the residual effects on others. What we fail to recognize when doing so is that we are actually imprinting the echo deeper rather than massaging it with healing hands.
There’s no happy ending in waiting for some magic love story to bring passion, joy and belonging to your life. Learn to love your being today and every day.
